Interesting article

This is written by a feminist professor in response to an article in the newspaper:

Jun 8, 2011

Disturbed by judgment, says Aware

WE REFER to last Friday's report ('Divorce and the attractive woman') and the judgment rendered by the High Court in this case.

The High Court took the view that it was relevant for a judge to take into account the attractiveness of a wife in determining her chances of remarriage when exercising its discretion on whether to grant lump sum or monthly maintenance. The Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware) is surprised and disturbed by this judgment.

While it may be valid to take into account a person's imminent prospects of marriage - for example, where there is evidence that a party intends to marry another party - it surely is not right for a court to go down a speculative line of reasoning as to whether a person, based on her looks, personality, ethnicity, nationality or relationship history, is likely to remarry.

It is, moreover, problematic to assume that an attractive woman is more likely to marry. What are the criteria for deciding who is attractive? Whose criteria are applied?

And on what basis are we to establish a connection between this alleged attractiveness and remarriage?

We hope that this judgment, which dealt with the issue of the bias of the judge in deciding the issue of maintenance, will not be used as a precedent to support such a line of inquiry in future cases relating to maintenance.

This would result in women being penalised and discriminated against if they do not fit normative - and indeed subjective - notions of beauty.

Teo You Yenn (Ms)
Board Member
Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware)

What do I have to say?

The most fair of all judgement is based in the Quran and even in situations that are frowned upon -such as divorces, everything has been laid out inside the Holy Book where true judgements are reserved for Him alone. 

It is most shocking to know that a civil court takes into account a woman's attractiveness (or not) when deciding her maintenance. Who decides what is attractive? What are the criteria and is there a reason behind why one woman is considered attractive and the other isn't? 

Most importantly -Is the court saying that if a woman is not attractive = it's her own fault? 

A woman is married not just for her beauty. 

Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status. her beauty and her religion, so try to get one who is religious, may your hand be besmeared with dust. 

I suppose you can put a woman's intellect under her property/beauty... so a man might find a woman attractive because she's smart, funny and has a witty personality. 

Thus, I concur with the letter's last line because who are we to penalize God's creations? Surely He has his plans for everything. 

Walluhualambissawab....

Lose Some Weight or Gain Some Faith

I'd just like to share this article i found here: http://www.muslimahsource.org/uncategorized/lose-some-weight-or-gain-some-faith-%C2%A9/

By: Umm Zakiyyah

“Oh, I envy you!”  The woman’s eyes were wide as she stared at Aya’s thin physique  from where the woman sat next to Aya on the couch, where they both held small glass plates of dessert, as did the other women in the room.

Aya smiled slyly as she carelessly finished off her second slice of German chocolate cake, using the side of her fork to scrape the glass saucer free of dark, rich icing before licking the fork clean.  She had delivered her fifth child only six weeks ago, and the fitting shirt she wore revealed a flat tummy and petite frame.

“How do you do it?” another woman asked.

Aya shrugged.  “I don’t.  I never stress over what I eat.”

She laughed.  “God, I’d die if I had to count calories.  Food’s the only thing I can depend on to always be sweet when I approach.”

The women laughed.

“But you must be doing something.  I swear, I’ve tried every diet out there, and none of them work.”
“Tell me about it.”

Aya wore a hesitant smile, unsure how to respond.

“Oh my God,” a woman said, glancing at her watch just then.  “It’s almost time for ‘Asr.  Let’s hurry up and pray Dhuhr before it goes out.”

It’s a scene almost every woman can relate to.  The always-thin-no-matter-what-I-eat [and by-the-way-I-never-exercise!] woman walks into the room, and every woman wants to know what her secret is (including me!).   But even as we listen intently to whatever she says, if she says anything at all, deep inside we know each of us already knows the answer, at least as it relates to our real question.

Now why can’t I look like that?

Metabolism, genes, “baby fat,” laziness, and just plain “bad luck” are just a few possible answers.  We go through the “diet binges” (as I like to call them), then we’re back to square one (well, not exactly, because that’s where we were trying to get with the diet).  In any case, it’s to no avail.

Then we turn to self-help literature.

Love the Real You.
Embrace That Baby Fat.
True Beauty Is Within.
You Don’t Have to Be Thin.
Beauty in Plus Sizes.

Next comes Dr. Phil.  The talking head (and body) tells us, in all the wisdom of an experienced mental health doctor, that television is taking over our lives and we shouldn’t let its beauty standards and consumerism and “quick fixes” distract us from what matters most (as he talks to us from that very medium).

Then comes Oprah.  Not the show, because, for our purposes, we can mute the woman’s voice and watch her talk soundlessly and laugh carelessly from that venerable couch.  Because all we want to do is gape at the well-shaped, not-thin woman, so proud and confident in herself.

Last comes our epiphany, even if bitterly.
I am who I am, “love handles” and all.  And I’m fine with that.

Then…  our crying.  And blaming others for being so fixated on the superficial.

Tissues are stacked next to us on the couch, and we dab our teary eyes and blow our noses, overcome with a surge of emotion.  Despondent and inspired, we say to ourselves, People should love me no matter how I look!

“Your husband may love you unconditionally,” I once told an unhappy, overweight wife who shared this same sentiment.  “But he won’t desire you unconditionally.”

Here’s the truth about our repeatedly failed diets, exercise regimens, and starvation programs:  It’s not the diet or exercise program that failed.

And no, unless you’re aiming for that anorexic/bulimic skin-on-bones Kate Moss look, the problem is not even your metabolism, genes, “baby fat,” or “bad luck” (though starvation  or a self-imposed hunger strike may give you that skeleton appeal, if that’s what you’re going for).

As Oprah herself said when embarking on her own diet and exercise program:  It’s about changing your life.

But let’s be honest with ourselves momentarily, especially given the obsessive media fixation on superficial beauty (and our tendency to view this superficiality as a terrible vice).

There is something in the nature of how Allah created women (and the men) that places at least some value on the superficial, a lot of value in fact.  Though, it is true that the commercialism of “sex appeal” and the constant media bombardment of manufactured “beauty” are a bit superfluous and disingenuous to say the least.
 
Modern insanity of media-hyped vanity.  That’s what I call it.

But “vanity,” in the non-literal, non-sinful sense of the word is a part of human nature.  After all, Allah Himself is beautiful, and He loves beauty.  We learn this from the Sunnah.

Stories of the miraculous beauty of Prophet Yusuf ‘alayhi salaam, the uncommon feminine beauty of our Mothers Safiyyah, Zaynab, and ‘Ayesha, may Allah be pleased with them, give us a glimpse into the reality and power of the superficial even in spiritual life.

Of course, these wonderful human beings weren’t wonderful because they were beautiful.  But their beauty was not completely meaningless to those around them, men or women.

So in order to properly address our own desires for “looking good,” we need to embrace the idea that we should be beautiful—

With respect to how Allah created us, not others.   [Ever wondered about that du’aa you say when looking in the mirror?  O Allah, You have made my physical constitution good, so make my character good also. This is a du’aa for anyone who passes a mirror, not just for the Aya’s amongst us.]
…But back to our failed diet programs.

Let’s be honest again.

We’re not unintelligent beings.  We know where the cookie jar is, and we know where we put that salad bowl; and on most days, we don’t mix them up.

We know that excessive sugar, processed foods, and emotional eating are not good for us.  We know that exercising regularly and staying on task while “eating right”are almost always successful in cutting off excessive fat, firming up that stomach, and giving you the inspiration to smile from the heart and feel good about yourself.

And though laziness may be a problem for many of us (even for the Aya’s of the world), it’s likely not our greatest challenge in “getting ourselves together.”  Laziness itself is often a symptom of something else.
Truth be told, for most women (and men for that matter) who are struggling with obesity, the added weight is just a visible “side effect” of a problem coming from deep within.  For some, it’s a serious health problem at the root, but for most others it’s something much more serious as the culprit.

This is where our diet binges, the French Women Don’t Get Fat books, and afternoon talk shows won’t, and can’t, help us.

And no, you can’t even blame your husband (or family) for lack of support, or for buying those goodies (or wanting you to make those goodies) when you told them you’re trying to watch your weight.
As with any problem that’s adversely affecting our lives and psychological and physical well-being, we must look deep within to find the root cause.  And although “depression” is often labeled the culprit, even depression itself is a symptom of something else.

Allah didn’t create us depressed, and He didn’t create us unhealthy.

So it is upon us to find out why more and more of us are turning to antidepressants, sleeping aids, drugs and alcohol (yes, drugs and alcohol are a problem for many Muslims), illicit entertainment, and staring at ourselves in the mirror day after day hating what we see, or just struggling to get out of bed.

The problem is a deeply spiritual one.
But I say my prayers every day. I believe in Allah.  I’m not a bad Muslim.

Yes, I’m sure this is all true, for most of us.  But dismissing spirituality as the root cause of our health problems and despondency is like an unhealthy person denying her obesity by saying I take vitamins every day.  I believe in good health.  I’m not a bad person.

Do you have to be a “bad person” in order to benefit from healthier life choices?
Besides, no “good Muslim” would turn down the opportunity to improve spiritually.  Only “bad Muslims” do that.

Here are some simple pointers for improving your health, and curing the deeper problems affecting your emotional, psychological, and physical well-being:

• Make Salaah the foundation of your day.  In other words, every item on your daily schedule should be built around prayer.  So instead of saying, I’ll do such and such at six o’clock in the morning, you’ll say I’ll do such and such after Fajr, before Dhuhr, or after Maghrib and so on.
• Make it a point to actually pray during Salaah.  In other words, pay attention to what you’re saying and think deeply about your soul, your approaching death, your struggle to please Allah (and yes, it is a struggle).
• Increase the time you spend in rukoo’ and sujood, even if it’s only a few more seconds than usual.  Relax as you bow and prostrate in prayer, and avoid being a “prayer thief.” The Prophet, sallallaahu’alayhi wa sallam, taught that the worst thief is the one who steals from his prayer—by not completing the rukoo’ and sujood.
• Read Qur’an daily.  Set a daily minimum amount of time to read and/or a minimum number of pages to read, and stick to it.  Take the Qur’an to work, listen to it in the car, read it on the bus, at school, and any and everywhere.  And take time to reflect on what you’ve read.  Read it in your own language, and in Arabic.
• Engage in daily dhikr, especially the morning and evening supplications from the Sunnah.  You don’t have to say them all; just pick a few that are easy for you and say them after Fajr and before Maghrib (or right after sunset) each day.  Download them to your computer, iPod or phone; or just keep the small Hisnul-Muslim (Fortification of the Muslim) tucked in a pocket of your purse.  You can even visit the Makedua.com website daily.
• Make du’aa.  Make du’aa.  And make more du’aa.  Make these supplications daily, even if short.  And make them sincere and heartfelt.  Cry to Allah, beg of Him, and humble yourself before Him.  Allah fixes all things by simply saying “Be” and it’s done.
• If you can’t read the Qur’an in Arabic, with tajweed, learn.  Now.  [Okay, I can almost hear all the excuses of why you didn’t enroll (or stay) in this or that Qur’an program, or why your schedule won’t permit…blah, blah, blah…but save it.  I don’t buy it.  This is part of the reason we find ourselves in such muck in the first place: denial, and lying to ourselves, especially regarding our depraved spiritual states.   If you have time to talk on the phone, go to school or work, play with your kids, backbite all those people you can’t stand, “Like” all those silly things on Facebook, and update Farmville—or if you even have time to struggle with your chocolate or sugar cravings (and thus increase that non-Aya-like waistline), you have time to learn Qur’an, somehow somewhere.  And if you really believe the excuses you’ve invented for yourself, don’t talk to the computer screen or to yourself, talk to Allah.  He’ll help you find that Qur’an teacher or online class that fits your “super busy, I don’t have time for Qur’an” lifestyle.  If you really want to read His Book, you will.  Simple as that.]
• Give charity, regularly.  It doesn’t have to be an awful lot, and it doesn’t have to be with money or physical goods.  Give your time.  And you don’t even have to leave your home; in fact, I suggest that you don’t leave it.  Our greatest opportunity for good is most often literally right in front of us:  Smile at your children and hug them and listen while they speak.  Smile at your husband.  Hug him when he walks in the door, ask how he’s doing, and listen while he speaks (or rants J). And go that extra mile for him:  Look nice, dress nice, smell nice (even if you don’t feel nice), and don’t argue with or criticize your man! (Though it has been proven that women have all the solutions to men’s problems).  …Do all the things you know you should be doing anyway but have convinced yourself he (or your family) doesn’t deserve.
• Admit your faults and sins, to yourself and to Allah.  Every day.  And beg for forgiveness and reformation. And do something about it!
• Say you’re sorry to the people you’ve hurt, even if you think you’re right (or are absolutely sure).  (This includes your husband and children, sisters J).
• Reunite with your parents and family, especially if you’ve had an argument or are annoyed with them because they simply can’t seem to get things right, even if the standoff is related to Islam.  You can’t hope to please Allah if you don’t try your absolute best to please your parents, and keep those ties of the womb.
• Get up and pray Tahajjud in the last third of the night (or at least some time after ‘Ishaa), at least once each week.
• And, sisters, don’t look at your menstrual cycle as your “week off.”  Get on task by increasing your Qur’anic reading (you can read from a Qur’an with translation if you follow the scholarly opinion that you cannot touch the mushaf during your cycle).  Increase your dhikr and du’aa.  Even get up in the last third of the night to supplicate to Allah.  You don’t need wudhoo’ to raise your hands in supplication or to whisper a prayer while you’re cuddled under those covers.  And definitely don’t leave off your morning and evening du’aa this “vacation week,” or ever!
• Fast Mondays and Thursdays (or at least three times each month).  This purifies both the body and soul, and does wonders for helping you with that waistline too.  And no, you shouldn’t fast just to lose weight, but you can throw in that intention as a means to have a healthy, fit body with which to worship Allah and be grateful.  Remember Allah loves beauty, so there’s nothing wrong with fasting for the purpose of a healthy soul and physique.
• If you struggle with severe depression and/or have a very short attention span (or even repulsion or dread) for Qur’an or prayer, talk to someone knowledgeable in Qur’anic treatment and prophetic medicine.  This will give you a much deeper and more authentic understanding of your problem than will antidepressants or a “shrink.”

If you integrate even some of these things into your daily life, you’ll see changes immediately, with the help of Allah.

Not necessarily in your waistline, but in your heart.

And with a pure heart (or at least a heart being purified), you can think clearly and get your priorities straight.  Then you can get other things right in your life—your health and desired weight amongst them.


Umm Zakiyyah is the internationally acclaimed author of the novels If I Should Speak, A Voice, Footsteps, and Realities of Submission.  To contact her, write to ummzakiyyah@yahoo.com or join her Facebook page.

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Role Models for our Daughters

 

 "In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate"

As always, the only things that are meaningful on Facebook are my Daily Islamic reminders. Here's a post that I'd like to share:

What do you teach your daughters? Do you allow them to act like Lady Gaga, Lindsay Lohan, Rhianna and others? Or do you encourage them to aspire to be the best of women. We are told, "The best women of mankind are four: Mariam daughter of `Imran, Assiya wife of Pharaoh, Khadija daughter of Khuwailid, and Fatima the daughter of the Messenger of Allah" (Bukhari/Muslim). Give your daughters proper role models!

Of course, with this said; it is also equally important that the mother acts as a role model as well. While we tell our daughters to follow the path of these wonderful Muslim women, we must also uphold all those values that these women in history have shown to us.

I expect alot from my children (insyaallah, when I have them). I expect them to be good muslims who establish regular prayers and fast and who have equal interest in acquiring knowledge of both this world and the next. I know they will be naughty and stubborn at times and I know they will be bombarded by all these bad influence of Lady Gaga, Rhianna and the likes. It will be hard to raise our daughters and sons in the coming future, but as parents, we must always try our best.

Always remember that our daughters will one day become mothers who will then have their own daughters and the cycle continues. Women have always been responsible for the socialization of children and also the imparting of values and knowledge.

The men don't get it....

"In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate"

Men should help out more at home... no matter how tired they are from work... because women who work also have to go home and work some more in their unpaid household labour. Aaii... I could go on about the sociological implications of that but in another entry perhaps.

But women, having been exposed to chemicals used to do laundry and for household cleaning as well as the occasional cuts while cooking and all that, this is what happens to their hands:


They crack.
They peel.
They get sore.
They get rashes.
They get swollen.







Don't you pity our mothers, wives and sisters?

Hijab Do's and Don'ts

"In the name of God, most Gracious, most Compassionate"

I found this very good article to which I will put here as a point of reference to myself and to others as what it means to wear the hijab over your head. Today it has come to a point where I am SO SICK of seeing girls who call themselves muslims using the hijab like a fashion statement and using for reasons OTHER than seeking Allah's protection and His pleasure.

I take a huge offense when I see girls in hijab wearing nail polish or excessive make up- main point: if you're wearing fake eyelashes and a GLOB of liquid eyeliner- odds are you never pray coz if you're gonna give me the excuse that it's 'the time of the month' then wow... you must have your period 365days a year.

Here's a photo that annoyed me:
NO- You do NOT use a cat ear on top of your hijab for the sake of looking 'cute'. It's such an insult to the hijab. Masyaallah... It made me so very angry when I saw this... and more so when it was from the front.







Then there's this:

NO- you do not wear tights under a mini skirt and pair it with a shawl and call it hijab. It says tramp, not muslimah.


And lastly... if I can see your round breasts then that means
you're not wearing a hijab either.







So to the article proper. I am only extracting four of her main points. I took it from this website: http://islamic-world.net/sister/hijab_in_quran.htm

Introduction:

This essay will attempt to briefly yet concisely enumerate the basic requirements regarding Muslim women's dress (Hijab) as stipulated by the Shari'ah (Divine Law) of Islam. The term Hijab, includes not only dress and covering the body, but methods of behavior before members of the same and/or opposite sex, promoting privacy for females and prohibiting loose intermingling between males and females, and thereby encouraging modesty, decency, chastity and above all, respect and worship of Allah. Minor differences exist among the scholars regarding the actual number of the requirements because of varying methods used by them in codifying. The ones mentioned here represent the ones agreed upon by the overwhelming majority of scholars and are all solidly backed by firm evidence taken from the Qur'an, the Sunnah and the practice of the Sahabah (the Companions).

The First Requirement: The Extent of Covering

The dress worn in public must cover the entire body except what has been specifically excluded, based upon the following proofs:

Allah Ta'ala says: "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts from sin and not show of their adornment except only that which is apparent, and draw their headcovers over their necks and bosoms and not reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women (i.e., their sisters in Islam), or their female slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants free of physical desires, or small children who have no sense of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah altogether, O you Believers, in order that you may attain success.[An-Nur, 24:31]

The word zeenah in the aayah above, literally means "adornment", and includes both (a) that which Allah has adorned, i.e., the woman's natural and/or physical beauty, and (b) that with which they adorn themselves, i.e., jewelry, eye shadow, attractive clothing, hand dye, etc. Soorat An-Nur spells out specifically the commands concerning the fact that a woman's natural beauty and her adornments are to be concealed from strangers except by (1) What may show due to accidental or uncontrollable factors such as the blowing of the wind, etc., and (2) What has been exempted (see explanation at end of this section).

Allah also says: O Prophet, Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their outer garments about themselves (when they go out). That is better so that they may be recognised and not molested. And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. [Al-Ahzaab, 33:59] Abu Dawood narrates that `Aishah (RAA) said: "Asmaa' the daughter of Abu Bakr (RAA) came to see the Messenger of Allah (SAAWS) wearing a thin dress; so Allah's Messenger (SAAWS) turned away from her and said: O Asmaa', once a woman reaches the age of menstruation, no part of her body should be seen but this-and he pointed to his face and hands.

The word khumur (pl. of khimar) refers to a cloth which covers the head (including the ears), hair, neck and bosom. The esteemed mufaasir (Quranic interpreter) Al-Qurtubi explains: "Women in the past used to cover their heads with the khimar, throwing its ends over their backs. This left the neck and the upper part of the chest bare, in the manner of the Christians. Then Allah commanded them to cover those parts with the khimar."

The Second Requirement: Thickness

The garment should be thick and opaque so as not to display the skin color and form of the body beneath it. Delicate or transparent clothing does not constitute a proper covering. The Sahabah were very stern on this and regarded scanty clothing in public as an indicator of a woman's lack of belief. Al-Qurtubi reports a narration from `Aishah (RAA) that some women from Banu Tamim came to see her wearing transparent clothing.

`Aishah said to them: "If you are are believing women, these are not the clothes of believing women." He also reports that a bride came to see her wearing a sheer, transparent khimaar, whereupon `Aishah (RAA) said: "A woman who wears such clothing does not believe in Soorat An-Nur." Moreover, the following hadeeth makes this point graphically clear. Allah's Messenger (SAAWS) said: There will be in the last of my Ummah (nation of believers), scantily dressed women, the hair on the top of their heads like a camel's hump. Curse them, for verily they are cursed.

In another version he said: ...scantily dressed women, who go astray and make others go astray; they will not enter Paradise nor smell its fragrance, although it can be smelled from afar. [At-Tabarani and Sahih Muslim] "Scantily dressed women" are those who wear clothing which reveals more than it conceals, thereby increasing her attractiveness while opening the path to a host of evils.

The Third Requirement: Looseness

The clothing must hang loosely enough and not be so tight-fitting as to show the shape and size of the woman's body. The reason for wearing a garment which is wide and loose fitting is that the function of Muslim women's clothing is to eliminate the lure and beauty of her body from the eye of the beholder. Skin-tight body suits, etc. may conceal the skin color, yet they display the size and shape of the limbs and body.

The following hadeeth proves this point clearly: Usamah ibn Zaid said: Allah's Messenger (SAAWS) gave me a gift of thick Coptic cloth he had recieved as a gift from Dahiah Al-Kalbi, and so I gave it to my wife. Thereafter the Prophet (SAAWS) asked me: Why didn't you wear the Coptic cloth? I replied: I gave it to my wife. the Prophet (SAAWS) then said: Tell her to wear a thick gown under it (the Coptic garment) for I fear that it may describe the size of her limbs. [Narrated by Ahmad, Al-Bayhaqi, and Al-Haakim]

The Fourth Requirement: Color, Appearance and Demeanor

Allah ta'ala says: "O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women; if you fear (Allah), then do not be too pleasent of speech, lest one in whose heart is a disease should feel desire (for you)." [Al-Ahzab, 33:32] The reason for the revelation of this verse is not the fear of distrust nor misbehavior on the part of the women, but rather to prevent them from speaking invitingly, walking seductively, or dressing revealingly so as to arouse sexual desire in the heart of lecherous and evil men. Seductive dressing and enticing speech are the characteristics of ill-intentioned women, not Muslims.

Al-Qurtubi mentions that Mujahid (RAA) said: "Women (before the advent of Islam) used to walk about (alluringly) among men." Qatadah (RAA) said: "They used to walk in a sensuous and seductive manner." Maqatil (RAA) said: "The women used to wear an untied cloth on their heads, while provocatively toying with their necklaces, earrings and other ornamental jewelry."

Furthermore, Allah has commanded women not to display their beauty, meaning both natural and acquired beauty. Allah commands the believing women thus: ...And do not make a display of yourselves like the displaying of the ignorance of long ago... [Al-Ahzaab, 33:33] A garment which is intended to conceal a woman and her beauty from public view cannot be a thing which enhances her beauty. Therefore, the garment cannot contain bright colors, bold designs or shiny and reflective material that draw men's attention to the wearer. The Arabic word above, At-Tabarruj, means not only "to display oneself" but also "to spruce up one's charms for the purpose of exciting desire".

Imam Adh-Dhahabi says in his book Kitab Al-Kaba'ir (The Book of Major Sins): "Amongst the deeds which a woman is cursed for are displaying the adornments she wears, wearing perfume when she goes out, and wearing colorful clothes..." Hence, the Muslim woman is encouraged to wear muted, somber colors and to avoid bright designs, patterns and colors. This point should serve also as a reminder to Muslim men who are in positions of responsibility for their women, that Allah's Messenger (SAAWS) has warned in an authentic hadeeth narrated by `Abdullah ibn `Amr ibn Al-`Aas that amongst the three individuals who would not enter Jennah (Paradise) would be: Ad-Dayooth, who is contented with obscenity within his family. i.e., a cuckold-a man who permits the women for whom he is responsible, such as his wife, daughter, etc., to engage in illicit sexual relations or to display their beauty to men, thereby stimulating sexual desire.

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Masyaallah... May that be of some help to us now and the future. Alhamdulillah, Allah has helped enlightened me and given me the Knowledge to be a better Muslimah nowadays. I can only pray that for those stray sisters, may their hearts be open to the right path before it's too late.

Wallahualam Bissawab...